Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Simply Keeping It Real
I am a very strong believer that the people you meet in life are for a reason (yes, this is the hippie chick in me coming out). Good or bad, there is some purpose that they have come into your life, something that you're either supposed to learn or a path your supposed to continue towards or even avoid at times.
I know that I have made some pretty silly mistakes in my life, and to be completely honest - they've usually happened when I have either not consulted with the people in my life I respect or asked questions, and then learned the hard way.
I think that with where I am right now in my life, and the goals I've accomplished, has so much to do with the wonderful people that I get to interact with on a daily basis. Almost all my clients are older than I am, have had more experiences - either with men, children, school, work, just life in general. And when I have a problem or a question, I have the opportunity to ask. They get the chance to share and teach, and I get to not make stupid mistakes! (Which I love!)
A lot of my lovely clients can attest to being questioned about relationships and men and how to react to what they do, act, and prefer. I take this advice quite seriously and incorporate it into my life and way of being in most cases. It helps me to realize that there are really strong, successful women out there that have their life together, and have a happy family life. When you're young and trying to deal with the dramas of dating, it can be really difficult to see beyond the first tree to the rest of the forest.
This last weekend, I actually had an opportunity to mentor to one of my girls. She's a teenager and I could see how upset she was, and it really bothered me. I really dislike it when someone is emotionally unhappy and want to do everything in my power to help change it. So - I just offered her advice just like all the other wonderful men and women offer to me. Perhaps it helped her, perhaps it didn't. Maybe with this one, maybe with the next man she'll meet and date.
A long time ago, I dated a boy that told me that I was "the biggest girl he ever dated". That really upset me, and I remember how one of the front desk girls at Ihloff wrote me a note and left it in my station, telling me how beautiful and wonderful I was, and how he was stupid for saying that and didn't deserve me anyways. That comment from him definitely kicked my butt into gear, literally for running. But her note? It's taped inside my color book, and if I ever need a little 'upper' I can just reread it and think that there are people out there that believe in me and are willing to help.
Thanks to all the awesome men and women that share their adventures, mistakes, and stories. Please continue, and not just with me, with anyone that's open to it!